Charge density wave (CDW) is a startling quantum phenomenon, distorting a metallic lattice into an insulating state with a periodically modulated charge distribution. Astonishingly, such modulations appear in various patterns even within the same family of materials. Moreover, this phenomenon features a puzzling diversity in its dimensional evolution. Here, we propose a general framework, unifying distinct trends of CDW ordering in an isoelectronic group of materials, 2H-MX2 (M = Nb, Ta and X = S, Se). We show that while NbSe2 exhibits a strongly enhanced CDW order in two dimensions, TaSe2 and TaS2 behave oppositely, with CDW being absent in NbS2 entirely. Such a disparity is demonstrated to arise from a competition of ionic charge transfer, electron-phonon coupling, and electron correlation. Despite its simplicity, our approach can, in principle, explain dimensional dependence of CDW in any material, thereby shedding new light on this intriguing quantum phenomenon and its underlying mechanisms. The dimensional dependence of charge density wave (CDW) in two-dimensional dichalcogenides remains puzzled. Here, Lin et al. study trends of CDW ordering in an isoelectronic group of materials 2H-MX2 and provide a unified understanding involving several microscopic factors.